I have successfully managed to keep myself & two children alive for almost 3 months. Yay me. I thought I would share my top tips for surviving life with a newborn & a toddler .
Lord knows it hasn’t been easy BUT it also hasn’t been as hard as I thought it would be. Gurantee i’m going to be eating those words in a few months. Gods sake.
MY TOP TIPS
1. TAKING TIME AT THE HOSPITAL
This was my sisters main piece of advice when it came to my birth with Oliver, I rang her just after he had arrived and she asked whether they were keeping me in overnight (he was born at 8am for context) – I said I wasn’t sure but the midwife who helped deliver him mentioned that they would probably let me home due to a uncomplicated birth & the fact I was feeling well – she told me to ask whether I could stay in overnight. Not because I didn’t want to go home to Teddy who I missed TERRIBLY, but because it was the only one on one time I would truly get with Oliver. To not think about housework or Teddy but to really soak in my gorgeous new baby and I am SO glad I did. I would advise anyone to do it.
2. EMBRACING TV TIME
Teddy is definitely watching more tv than usual but I refuse to feel guilty about it. I am still very much finding my feet when it comes to juggling two babies, plus housework & attempting to look after myself too so if I need to accept a little help from PJ Masks.. I’m gonna. It buys me time to change the baby, boob the baby, rock the baby to sleep, feed myself. All things I NEED to do.
3. SPEND QUALITY TIME WITH TODDLER
I’m not talking about dedicating hours upon hours playing with your oldest because realistically, when you have a baby, that isn’t going to happen. But when you do have five spare minutes – give them your ALL. Whether it’s reading the same book you’ve read twenty times, whether it’s them telling you about an episode of Bing they are watching or just joining in with an activity they have been doing/playing with. Let them know they have you; ask questions, give them a cuddle and engage!
4. BUYING A BABY CARRIER
Hands down one of the best baby purchases I have ever made! Not just so I can join in a little more with Teddy but also for getting some housework done! It has made life so much easier and it’s also great when Oliver is feeling a little fussy and doesn’t want to be put down but I need to sort Teddy’s lunch or tidy up the kitchen after tea. Amazing! Oliver loves to nap in his so it’s a win-win situation. He gets to sleep and I can get a little more done.
5. LETTING TODDLER HELP WITH BABY
Teddy is obsessed with his brother so we’ve definitely embraced him helping out when he can. It’s just little things like passing us a nappy or wipe, or sometimes in a morning he likes to pick Oliver’s outfit for the day. He also loves helping with his bath time, using the sponge to help wash him or pouring water over him. It’s incredibly cute and I love getting him involved.
6. FIND OTHER WOMEN IN THE SAME POSITION
When I had Teddy I surrounded myself with women also having their first born and it saved my sanity, and this time around I have found myself seeking out women with newborns that ALSO have toddlers. Whether it is finding people on Instagram or reconnecting with someone you went to school with years ago! Reach out, because nothing feels better than someone saying ‘ME TOO’.
7. RELAX AND TAKE DEEP BREATHS
Because lord knows children were sent to test us. There have been a handful of occasions where I have had to leave the room whilst Teddy has a bitch fit and Oliver is whinging. Nothing is going to happen in those 2 minutes it takes for you to cry/scream/inhale a mars bar. You got this.
I hope this helped in some way and gave you a little insight into how I am ‘attempting’ to survive life with a toddler & a newborn.