One thing I have noticed since becoming a parent, is how important self-care is! We are quick to go on about being kind to other people & showing kindness to everyone around us but when it comes to OURSELVES, we are probably our harshest critics. We are so focussed on making sure that everyone around us is okay (especially as a mum) that we completely neglect ourselves on a daily basis.
It’s so easy to say “oh I don’t have time” or “i’ll just do this first”. I’ve learnt that my mental health really suffers with a lack of me-time, I NEED just five minutes to myself to regroup and fully relax. Research has actually shown that adding self-care into your routine reduces stress, increases productivity and inspires feelings of happiness. I thought I would share with you the things I enjoy doing or try to incorporate to help with my own self-care.
This is one thing in parenthood that nobody can get enough of, however I think it’s one of the most important things you can do for yourself. Even before I had Teddy I bloody loved my sleep! I wasn’t one for having lie ins in the mornings but early nights were my jam. I used to squeeze in as many early nights as I could without neglecting Aaron & seeming like a complete bore! Some nights I will get into bed when Teddy does and read my book, before having an early night. I feel so much better for it & it really does make all the difference.
SWITCH OFF SOCIAL MEDIA
I mentioned this in my DIGITAL DETOX but one thing I am trying to do more of is switch off from social media. Especially in the evenings! It’s the only time I get to fully relax with Aaron & I don’t want to spend the whole time of it on my phone. I spend the beginning of the week blogging in the evenings, ready for the week ahead, then I have the rest of the evenings to myself to read or watch a film/tv show together.
I am at my most relaxed when I am reading a book. I can completely lose myself & think about something other than motherhood, cleaning, work and just general life. I tend to spend Teddy’s naps browsing social media, planning blog posts so that on the nights i’m not blogging I can read. I also find I fall asleep much easier if I’ve read just before I go to sleep rather than when I’ve been on my phone.
If you are a parent you will know that the majority of your money goes on your child. Whether it’s clothes, toys or just general bits & pieces.. kids are hell-a expensive. This month I have worked really hard on my blog and it’s really paid off so I figured I deserved a little treat! I picked up my all time favourite Jo Malone fragrance and a Too Faced palette that I’ve been eyeing up for months. It felt good to spend a little bit of money on myself, on things that I wouldn’t usually – it made them even more special!
This is one thing that I have really started to do more since having Teddy! It’s crazy how much difference to your self esteem & mental health a ten minute pamper can make. Just taking ten minutes a couple of times a week to put on a face mask, apply some fake tan or even paint your nails.. whatever it is that makes you feel good about yourself.
Aside from reading, listening to music is my favourite thing. I listen to it every day. Whether it’s when me & Teddy are eating breakfast or whilst I am cooking tea. It really helps me relax and if singing your tits off to The Greatest Showman soundtrack doesn’t cheer you up – there is something wrong with you.
What does self-care mean to you? How do you like to treat yourself?