When you are pregnant, people tell you that you won’t ever have a minute to yourself and your whole day will revolve around your baby. Naively I thought, HOW?! They are tiny and don’t they sleep all the time? Little did I know that when they say babies sleep all the time, it means ON YOU, attached to either your boob or your lap! I have to save my two minute showers for when Aaron is home, I have to read my books during the night feed on my kindle and you have to learn to eat with one hand at the speed of a rabid dog.
Teddy is now thirteen weeks old and I feel like, finally, we have found our feet and got ourselves into the swing of things. Our day-to-day life depends on whether we have any plans or not & whether Aaron is off work. I thought we would share our daily routine if we are just having a Mummy & Teddy day. We don’t have a strict routine with Teddy and I don’t believe you should force your baby into one, if it doesn’t happen naturally! Babies know exactly what they want and when so just roll with it!
We usually wake up around 8/8:30a.m *woohoo*, that is after being up two/three times in the night, so we deserve a little lie in. We have a snuggle & feed in bed and a little chat about what we’ll be doing that day, or reading a book. I then put him on his changing mat and strip him right down, giving him 10 minutes of nappy free time. My kid loves being bollock naked! I use this time to get myself dressed and ready, by dressed I mean in clean comfy clothes! I have ten minutes people, time is of the essence.
I then usually give Teddy a quick wipe over and get him dressed for the day, usually in a lovely, snuggly baby grow, before we head downstairs. When we get downstairs I will usually put him in his rocker and put children’s tv on, I know bad mum alert but it’s the only chance I get to eat my breakfast and give the kitchen & living room a quick clean. Needs must and all that. We’ll then usually have some time on his play mat, playing with his toys or having tummy time. He actually hates tummy time when we do it on the floor, he prefers to do it when we are holding him, or he is lay on us!
Around 11:30/12 he is ready for another feed and a nap! It is anyone’s guess how long the nap will last though, it depends what mood he is in. It can last anywhere from 15 minutes to an hour. I usually spend this time trying to grab some quick snacks and a drink before he wakes up.
Once he is awake and we’ve changed his bum, we will sometimes head out for a walk to meet Aaron after work, who usually finishes work around 2o’clock. It’s so important to get out and get some fresh air! In the first few weeks I never left the house alone because I was absolutely terrified that something would go wrong. Almost 13 weeks in and I’ve finally got the hang of it, it still takes about an hour to actually leave the house, but we manage to get out eventually!
Once we are all home, Aaron will usually entertain Teddy whilst I try and write some blog posts or have a shower before we all snuggle up and watch TV or play with Teddy on his mat. After our tea, which is more often than not eaten one handed, passing him between us trying to eat as quickly as we can, we will head upstairs ready to give Teddy his bath. This usually happens at 8pm as he has his last feed at 9pm, ready for bed. We like to both go upstairs and give him a bath before enjoying some baby massage. Teddy absolutely LOVES bath time, he is such a water baby. Again, I think it’s because he loves being naked! Such a lad…
We get into bed for 9 at the latest, where Teddy has his last feed and I will either read on my kindle or catch up on some blogs & youtube videos. 9 times out of 10 he is usually out for the count at 10pm and i’ll put him into his crib where he’ll sleep soundly for around 4/5 hour, before waking for his next feed.
When I am in bed ready to go to sleep and I am looking back on the day, I feel like I’ve hardly done anything and worry that i’m not doing enough for Teddy. The feeling of mum guilt is so real and some days it can really overwhelm me.
I remember the days leading up to when Aaron had to go back to work after his paternity and I felt physically sick. I felt like I wouldn’t be able to cope on my own and counted down the hours until Aaron came home. Luckily after 4 or 5 weeks, that feeling passed and it was nice to spend time just me & Teddy. Whether it was chilling at home, or going out for the day shopping. As much as I struggled in the first few weeks, I am already dreading the day when I have to go back to work and leave Teddy with somebody else. I am trying to make the most of everyday as you’ll never get this time back again. Time is so precious with your baby, I feel like it was only two minutes ago that he was born and now he’s three months old!