Pregnancy is without a doubt the best thing that I have ever experienced. I absolutely love it and I already know I will miss it when the Baby is here. Having an older sister who has been pregnant, I kind of knew what I was getting into when we decided to start trying for a baby. I knew all the horrible symptoms that you can get and I knew that nothing would feel as incredible as feeling your baby move and kick inside you (the most amazing feeling, that I honestly can’t describe..) however there are some things that I didn’t know and I kind of wish I had…
1. People asking how you are, sure it is lovely and they are just being kind but when people say, ‘Oh Hi, how are you?’ and I reply that i’m really good thankyou. They then repeat the same question but with ‘But really, how are you feeling?’…I feel the exact same as the first time you asked me, but now slightly annoyed. It didn’t really bother me at first but when people are asking every single day..it really begins to grate on you.
2. People thinking they can comment on every aspect of your body. Don’t even get me started on the amount of times i’ve heard ‘Oh your bump is massive, oh your bump is so tiny, you look so tired..’ for the love of god! People wouldn’t dare remark on your body or whether you look like you’ve had 2 hours of sleep if you weren’t pregnant, so why as soon as you ARE pregnant, do people think they can make remarks like that?! It genuinely baffles me.
3. Do NOT Google anything pregnancy related! My midwife mentioned this during one of our first appointments, but I just couldn’t help myself. Google has all the answers..WRONG. It has lots of worse case scenarios and horror stories. Google you have a cough, and you’re actually going to die a slow, painful death. If you have any genuine concerns or questions, ring your midwife..that is what they are there for.
4. Old wives tales are a load of shit. If you have this craving it’s a boy, if you carry your bump one way it’s a girl! Well if that’s the case..my child is both! I understand some people really do believe in all the myths and legends, I just don’t buy into it. People are obsessed with guessing the gender of our baby based on them and it really does annoy me. I don’t think hormones help with my anger levels but just accept that my baby will be, what they are. Either is a blessing!
5. Since becoming pregnant, I have a much easier time saying no to people and putting myself first. Not in a selfish way, but in a..there isn’t just me to worry about anymore and if I don’t feel comfortable doing something, I am not going to do it. Obviously explain in a polite manner that you don’t want to and offer an alternative but stay firm. You are carrying precious cargo and I think sometimes people can forget that.
Did you learn anything throughout your pregnancy that you wish you had known beforehand? Did you experience any of the things that I mentioned?